How To Make Up With A Loved One

by Joanne Weir

Making up can be one of the best things to happen in your life, or the worst. You must first take a few steps in order to make sure everything is in perfect conditions to make up with someone, or to get them back to you. It is important that you think long and hard about what you are trying to do and how you will do it. All the pain that comes after a break up or a sour relationship may just heal with time, but it may never heal unless you make peace with that person. Making peace can help improve your life but there are somethings to keep in mind before you attempt this.

Regardless of how things used to be between you two you need to take a few steps back and regard everything with a 3rd perspective eye and keep things in that perspective. Allowing emotion to overtake you will only cause more problems. So keep these following things in mind.

1. Do not be a pathetic loser who crawls back on their hands and knees to the stronger one. You want to have the upper hand and not be cowering and desperately seeking resolution to the conflict that arose. If you NEED this resolution, then its not time for you to go back and try to solve it as you can’t fix something when you yourself are not fixed. Crawling back can make you look pathetic and make the person less likely to find you a better person, they simply may take pity on you which is not how you want to live.

2. You must first find peace with yourself in order to find peace with the relationship. If you aren’t in a good mood or you cannot find contentment in your life as it is, you should consider waiting or finding something to distract you before you go back to the person to reconcile things. We all can’t be who we want to be, but we can be good people and be content with how things are, once you accept that you will be ready to go back.

3. Accept the fact that it may not work out. This is why step 1 and 2 are so important, if it comes down to it and your past friend or lover refuses to have anything to do with you, you must accept this and move on. It makes it a lot easier to accept this when your life is already in order and you do not NEED this person in your life to be happy, it would simply improve an already content and fulfilled existence.

4. Be careful, be cautious in your approach. Figure out what exactly made things wrong and do your best to either fix that problem, or come up with a way to explain it to the other person as to why it happened and why it will never happen again. You want things to work, then you need to prove it to the other person and to yourself that they will work.

5. Make sure that YOU yourself are ready. Are you trying to get back together with someone who made your life miserable but you can’t live without them? Maybe its better to wait and find someone else to distract you before you rashly run back into the other persons arms.

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